Having a dummy is a wonderful way to settle and comfort your child. It is also given at birth to babies who need practice sucking to assist feeding and a dummy may be used as a successful cue to go to sleep.
However, when a child enters the stage of beginning to verbalise, this dependency upon a dummy can affect their ears and get in the way of speech acquisition and personal development and affect their teeth. These four simple steps may assist you to remove your child’s dummy without causing unnecessary anxiety as they grow, enabling a smoother transition.
Once you feel your child is ready, you can read this story and discuss the Dummy Fairy in preparation for her visit. This is happening because they are a big boy or girl and this is very exciting. A real fairy will be coming to your house so perhaps consider if you wish to increase the fairytale by adding a little fairy door or fairy footprints to your setting.
You are the best judge of when your child is ready. I chose for Daisy to visit at age 2.5 years for my boy and my girl, however, you may choose an earlier or later age and it’s best to work around things such as illness, teething or personal issues for a smoother transition.
Three years later Sophie was born and she, like Daniel remained in special care so we also introduced her to a dummy.
At age 2.5 it was suggested by her Dentist that the Dummy Fairy visit soon as her teeth were curving forward.
Sophie was obsessed with fairies so I chose to attach a Little Fairy Door to Sophies’ wall while she slept and I used a fairy footprint stencil to make pink glitter fairy footprints near the door and through the house ultimately leading to her gift from the Dummy Fairy.
When Daniel was 2 years old I identified that he was turning to his dummy more than before so once his molars were through I decided to limit his dummy sucking to sleep time only. As an advocate of self-settling, Daniel had formed the habit of playing with dummies in bed until he fell to sleep so I knew that we needed to introduce a future dummy replacement to comfort him. I chose to give Daniel a blankie and my childhood soft toy puppy dog which he loved.
At 2.5 years of age, we felt it necessary to ditch Daniels dummies.
We were influenced by the following information
- Speech Pathologists say that Dummy sucking can affect the sounds made by the letters S,Z,SH,CH,T,D & N
- Dr’s feel that a toddler sucking a dummy has three times more ear infections than a non-dummy sucker
- Dentists also relate a curve in the top front teeth to dummy sucking
Daisy the Dummy Fairy was created as we wished to remove Daniels dummy with minimal anxiety and stress.
Every child will respond differently to not having
their dummy. For both of my children, it was a pleasant
surprise. We knew they may ask for it in the first few days
and we committed to not giving the dummies back to the children
Day 1 – Woke crying for their dummy and again at midday and evening sleep time.
Day 2 – Woke and did not call for their dummy. Asked for it without tears at the midday sleep and cried for it at evening sleep time.
Day 3 – No tears all day and no mention until the evening sleep where the only comment was that the Fairy took all of the dummies and gave them to the babies.
Day 4 onwards – Very little mention at all. My daughter Sophie only comments occasionally when she sees a baby with a dummy. She may comment that the Fairy gave it to them and now they are happy.
You can choose to spend a lot or a little of their special gift. Daisy the Dummy Fairy gave my son a dinosaur and my daughter a Barbie doll and bubble machine as requested.